It's All About the Angles... Where and How To Get Someone of Quality.

HI! It's me again. How have you been? Me? I'm fine, being cool. You don't want to know all that do you? You are just being nice just so you can find out how to find someone of quality. What's wrong? Those dating websites keep on giving you rejects and crazies? Are the bars giving you low quality people with "miles'? Why are you surprised? Consider the source. Why do you think you will find a faithful, serious, person of quality in a place like a bar or club? That's where people in a relationship go and find people so they can cheat. You should know that by now. How many people of TRUE quality have you met from there? Don't worry, I'll wait. Now wipe those tears away, I got you covered with another dosage of the truth mixed in with some comedy. Isn't that what life is about anyway? Since it's hot in the streets I have made up a list. Not just any list though, I have included bonuses including level of difficulty and prep work to ensure your success all for, FREE! So without further ado, allow me to put you on. Here is where to find people of QUALITY along with some tips to attract that person to you.



Location : Bookstore. Degree of Difficulty : Medium. Prep - You MUST be literate, (at the very least for obvious reasons). Dress should be casual but smart. Throw some glasses in there while you are at it, makes you look smarter. Best Times : Sat.- Sun 1-5 p.m.

You might be asking, the bookstore? YES! The bookstore. If you were not aware since the last book you read was "The Little Engine That Could", bookstores are where it's at. The have every type of book there not just the kind with pictures. You will find someone of quality because at the least they are intelligent and are looking to expand. Self improvement is SEXY!!!! The way you pick someone up is the old fashion way, through something in common. Hang around looking at subjects that you find interesting and are genuinely excited about. You see someone you like in the section and there is that EYE CONTACT, go for it!!! Offer her a cup of coffee, it is literally 5 steps from where you are inside the store. Make conversation and get to know one another naturally. Just make sure to invite me to the wedding :)

What To Avoid : Don't go with your computer and be all creepy near the coffee spot in the store while you sip on the same drink for 2 hours while you hunt. Don't be that person.




Location : Grocery Store. Degree of Difficulty : Medium. Prep - An appetite. Basic knowledge of cooking. Dress should be business or business casual. Best Times : Tues-Thurs. 3:30-7 p.m. (after work)

I know what you are thinking, Grocery Store, boring... Let me tell you something. What is more exciting then finding someone that takes proper care of themselves and knows how to cook? Now that I have your attention, grocery stores are excellent places to find someone of quality. Now you usually see people in a rush and not really wanting to be around that many people. It makes people uncomfortable and less likely to have casual interaction as opposed to a bar where there is already social lubricants (alcohol). This is where it takes skill. It starts with eye contact. Once they have checked you out like the fine piece of meat that you are, smile back at them (a wink for the skilled). Once there is an equal reaction, just smile and introduce yourself. Make casual small talk and be nice. Help each other choose ingredients. This is an excellent chance for the set up. If you were smart, you would have some ingredients in your cart for a special recipe. You tell that person that the reason for you being there was to make a special dish that you are famous for that a dead grandmother gave you. You gain so many cool points that it's not funny! Here is where you win, please recite this word for word WITHOUT any variation and with a sincere face. " I would invite you to taste it but since we do not know each other properly yet, I don't think it would be right at this time". Then pause for effect... See what you did there was invite the person to get to know each other at a good pace with a promise of a reward while being realistic over their own paranoia. It is an all around win and you are doing you and them a favor.

What To Avoid : Anyone that has a bunch of ready made food such as heat and serves and just add water, they are the opposite of what you are looking for. Also avoid anyone with too many sweets or junk. Let's not forget to be mindful of anyone that has more alcohol (wine, wine coolers, beer) then actual food. Also lookout for a product called Monistat 7 (for the females), run don't walk away.



Location : Gym. Degree of Difficulty : High. Prep - Being in somewhat good shape (round does not count).Cinnamon Gum. A Shower before working out. Dress should be athletic gear without too many logos or loud colors. Some accessories can be an MP3 player Best Times : Mon-Sat 5-9 p.m.

Here is where you will find someone of quality and could probably whoop your butt. That's sexy. Someone who cares for their physical well being cares for others and has less stress while having their eye on the bigger picture. Please do not be intimidated, it is extremely difficult to stand out amongst the others that are gawking at that body in very form fitting clothes as they bounce up and down and up and down and are getting all hot and sweaty... wooo, getting excited just thinking about it! This is what you do, go about your workout as usual. Go to the Cardio Section (treadmills, elliptical, stair masters, bikes). Eye contact, then smile. If they smile back, then go away to another section without looking back. Again, this is for you to stand out and not be like the rest of the pervs. If they end up being in the same place you are in and using any of the machines or weights, get close to them and say "you have great form" with a big smile and that cinnamon gum in your mouth. Watch how they are hit by cupids arrow when they look at you. Ask for their name while you give them yours and ask if you could spot them. ***Now as an extra tip cause I love you, go there on a Friday between the hours of 7 p.m. to close. If you meet a person of quality during this magical time, you need to marry them. They were there getting their body right and relieving stress after a long day. They were doing something healthy instead of them going on another worthless date or hanging out with their looser "friends" at the bars and clubs while they drown their sorrows with that Firewater.

What To Avoid : Clothes that are too tight, going above your means (lifting weights that you very know you can't, or running faster than you should. The end result is always funny and not towards your benefit.) Also, be careful with the married ones. People tend not to work out with their wedding rings or bands. Just look for that circle tan on the ring finger.


I hope this helps and you have enjoyed the journey. If you find a person doing all three...???? You are truly on to someone of top quality! Treat them right because they deserve the best!!!!

Did I Ever Tell You About... The Time The Mother Of My Kids Almost Got Me Killed?

I never have been too open about my personal life but under much encouragement by those that know me, I have decided to share some of my experiences. If you know me, we have experienced many interesting adventures. I always joke that something interesting ALWAYS happens when I go out. I wouldn't have it any other way. So I introduce to you the pieces of my life...


Here's the breakdown -

I meet a young lady during a certain crossroads in my life. It was 1999 and I had just come back from P.R. and I wanted to change my life. Let's just say I was living the wrong way. I was high all day everyday and having sex with all types of women. I decided nothing good can come out of bad when my friend Tyrone lost a baby with Naomi. The baby was born premature and literally died in the arms of the parents. I felt terrible that everyone was loosing it and I was the only dry eye in the room. I felt for their loss and felt responsible for what happened (they met through me and all they consumed her in my house being I had my own place since 16). So I felt my lifestyle and encouragement of it, had caused what happened.

So I come back to the are after a few months in P.R. and come across a lady I messed with in High School for a brief period. Her and I ended on terrible terms and was shocked to see her looking so good (the years have been kind to her). So we got to know each other and ended up being inseparable. I really enjoyed her company and we ended up having two great daughters.

Now fast forward to after the kids are born and you will see that we did not bring out the best in each other. I care for her but in love I simply was not. Being she is a smart and strong willed Dominican, her and I did not mix. So after many years of difficulty, I left on October of 2006. This was at the worst time possible. I left with only my clothes and my car that I would later total a few weeks later. The Mortgage Industry that I was involved in collapsed so I was not making the money like I was and had to work longer to get less. Now here is when it gets funny.

She is being told by multiple sources that I am in Avenue, H2O, Bravo Bravo, all types of events just acting a fool. Slapping all types of ass and just showing off. Apparently did this not sit well with her. She was getting jealous beyond belief. Little does she know that I was NOT in those places at all. I was working on average 14 hour workdays and after the accident, was trying to line everything up. People, I left EVERYTHING behind. She kept the house, the kids, and everything else we acquired over 7 years. I was trying to rebuild from next to nothing and she was acting up from me supposedly living my single life. It didn't help that I was seeing this young lady that actually came by with me when I saw the kids, let's just call her D. So me and D go to see my kids and she looses it. Just when it couldn't get worse for her jealousy, I get to know some people at El Zol. I went up there for business and met some great people there. I even dated someone up there for a bit (lovely lady by the way. ). One day I go to drop off the flan I made for a DJ friend's bday and she shouted me out while in the studio. This was the straw that broke the camel's back

Now my lovely Dominican has connects in certain "circles". Her good friends are good with people who make it happen and can handle things on their own. So with all this Ale is partying 24/7 supposedly rumors, make her upset. She is telling everyone that she has to handle the kids and the big house without my help and while she was struggling. Now what happens is when women start playing the victim. They tell the wolves how they are going through a tough time and how they are all alone and can't take it and paint the other to be an absolute monster. So one thing leads to another and let's say 2 wolves get involved. Let's call em A and L. Now these dudes make it happen and the happen to come across me on a chance meeting. We hit it off and get to be real cool because of a mutual friend. This was on a Wednesday. Now on Friday when they find out who I am, they tell me that they were going to air me out on Saturday after I got out of a bday party that was happening in Avenue. The reason they let me know was cause they saw I was always working and was indeed not partying and not handling my business as they were told. Everything was cool afterwards and we still joke about it to this day.

--- This happens all the time and some are not as fortunate as others. Please be careful because many have been hurt or worse over he say she say. Also as a side note, she never intended to have me killed but she definitely inspired the wrong people. Be careful what you say cause you never know.

**** Also, I am very tight with all her family, brother and sister, cousins and others. They are as much a part of my family and I am of theirs. Although we have our ups and downs, she is still a person I look out for and care about. NOW DON'T EVER ASK ME WHY WE ARE NOT TOGETHER CAUSE THIS SHOULD BE A GOOD ENOUGH EXPLANATION.

It's All About the Angles... How To Make Her Like You More.

This is a guaranteed way for her to like you more. Of course, this is only for wife or wifey. Not the side chick or that every once in the while gal. I do this for those that are in need of ideas. Remember, I do this cause I care. The path success is to listen to her, don't ignore her while she is talking like you are used to. Of course the key is to be GENUINE.

*Have Flowers or Candy Delivered to the Job - Nothing says you are special than this. It allows your special lady to show off at work to all the married ones that get neglected by their husbands and/or the single girls that always talk about their new dudes from out of town that mysteriously no one ever sees.

* Pick Her Up From Work Without Telling Her - Nothing shows you care more than just surprising her at work taking her out without her prior knowledge. Take her to her favorite restaurant and go for a walk afterwards. It sounds simple yet it goes a long way. This keeps things exciting. Listen the minute you become predictable, you become boring. Once that happens, SHE WILL CHEAT! Probably cheat on you with me but that's another blog altogether.


*Treat Her and Her Friends to a Mani Pedi - This is apparently hot in the streets right now. Under no I mean NO circumstances should you go with her. No man that pees standing up should ever go to any establishment with the word Salon in it. So with that said, just pay for her and her friends to chill out for a bit and let her hype you up to her friends. Chances are that her friends have already found you attractive and who knows, maybe you have yourself another side chick or a once in a while cause of it.

*Quick Trip - Take her to NY or a close spot like Baltimore. Something with entertainment and a nice hotel close by. A little unannounced road trip will add to the spontaneity and keep things fun. It doesn't have to cost much but it makes her feel special. Girls like playing dress up so bring some outfits like a nurse's a maid joint. It's like you are cheating on her with her! Throw a wig in there and chase that hottie around the hotel room. She will love you for it...




* Drop Off Her Favorite Dish At Work- Bring her favorite lunch from either a restaurant or if you really want to get some cool points, from something you made yourself.

* Buy her a Teddy Bear - Corny? Not for her. Have that lil guy sitting on her bed on the pillows and watch her reaction.

* Clean Her Car - Let her take your car (yeah, I know but, just do it) and clean her car inside and out. Tell her something to the effect of, I can't have my baby driving around in a dirty car.

* Gym Membership - This is, how do you say, a win win. You have that girl in the gym 3 times a week at least and her body will stay tight. You both benefit from this movement.


Now for this to work you REALLY have to have paid attention to her likes and wants. If you didn't cause you were too busy zoning out to her body, it's ok. It happens. Just hack in to her Facebook or Twitter or simply ask a friend of hers.

It's All About the Angles...So You Have Yourself a Stalker?

Good for you!!!! Do you know how rare it is to have nowadays?. They are one of your top fans! They say you can measure how successful you are by the amount of haters you have. Uh uh nope, I politely disagree. You can measure how successful and wanted you are by how many stalkers you have. If you have one or more stalkers, Congratulations! You now have someone wants you for all the wrong reasons and will NOT leave you alone until you beat them like they stole something. What's more loyal than that? Not much really.

In all seriousness, here are a few tips on how to avoid creating, identifying and controlling a stalker.

* Do be careful when getting to know someone - Do not tell too much about yourself, your family, location of your home, areas of leisure, and exactly where you work. This is something earned once trust is established.

* Never under any circumstance invite them to your home - Why do you think they invented hotels for? Get to really know the individual after a time period before you extend that ever so sacred invitation.

*Check how much they text, call - If all they do is invite you out after you have told them no and ask for a reason or 5 as to why, you have yourself a potential stalker. The good news is that you can always ignore them and change your number if it gets to be too much.

* Never, Nunca, NEVER hit that!!!! No matter how hot and bothered you get NEVER have sex with this potentially unstable creature. Nothing turns a somewhat annoying person into a stalker faster than working the middle.

* Be Honest - Once you have realized that they are not right in the head, just be honest and say that you are not interested in being anything else then distant friends. Very distant.

* Direct Calm Communication - Is probably the best way to stop a stalker from being a stalker. Tell them you are uncomfortable with them being everywhere you are. Calmly explain to them that those scary people you have close to you will gladly loosen a few teeth if you continue with all this coincidental running into each other

* Stop promoting where you will be at all times. - You may not be aware as to why they are always where you are at the exact same time. Please look no further than your updates. It is not a good idea to tell everyone where you will be and at what time you will be there. There is also these scary apps for cell phones that use GPS that allow people to know EXACTLY where you are at all times. That is just scary...

* Get yourself some scary crazy built people as friends. - Stalkers understand intimidation and potential threat better than calm talking at times. A few of these great people around you that like punishing idiots are a must have for the fall season. Great accessories.

* Walk around HEAVY!!! - You can't have scary crazy built friends with you at all times so I highly encourage everyone to have some type of weapon always on you. It is just a smart move now with the way things are. They don't want to hear that leave you alone talk? Ok, just go to your waistline and let off a couple of hollow tips in their direction. See how quickly they change once they had that rush of running away while their life is being threatened. This is a guarantee fix!!! Just make sure you have alerted the law enforcement (cops) of your situation. This movement is only for those that have attempted the police route and have a strong lawyer.



I know this will help and hope it entertains you as much as it does for me.

They Takin' Pictures...

I know I will be in the minority when I say that I dislike taking pictures. Every event, get together, bar, short trip, restaurant, birthday party, casual visit, and random running into has become, "Wait, let me get a picture with you." Not "can I?" or "would you like to?". Now let me be clear, I actually like the people that ask so it's not like I mind being seen with and or standing close to them. I just do not understand the need to take a picture every 2 seconds. Yes I am at a social gathering and I am publicly being seen but I don't want to take thousands of pictures of the same thing over and over again. I genuinely do not like the whole picture taking movement that has been happening for the last few years. Consider me to be a private person that enjoys company. I blame social networks such as Myspace, Facebook, and Twitter. They have created the new wave of amateur photographers and models that have no business doing so. So think about how many terrible pics you have seen lately of that chick who really thinks she is cute with her goofy look and jacked up hair with a gut in some random place and tubby over there thinks he is built so he has decided to take off his shirt being all baby oiled up for no reason.



In all seriousness, I would like to share a story with you. This actually happens a lot although people don't like to admit it. Picture this if you will, I am at a random event and I run into a married woman. She was there with a couple of female friends and I was flying solo at that time. We haven't really seen each other in a while so while her and I we catching up briefly, her friends suggest we take a few flicks. She grabs me close and after a few smiles and being blinded by the flash later, we go our separate ways. That's it that's all. Now a few hours later I see the pictures on Facebook because her and I were tagged on them without her or my consent with a certain type of caption. Now my understanding is that her husband saw these pics and thought the worst. He didn't like what she told him (the truth) and knew of me through reputation alone. Now one thing lead to another that out of respect, I will not go into details. That was an extreme case but it has been brought to my attention that his happens often and there are many fights and issues cause of it. The trust issue comes into play and it's one of those instances where not everything is as it looks.



I do think that there is an art in photography when done right. I am a big fan of art and photography as an extension of that culture. There are many photographs that are powerful and beautiful in their own right and I thoroughly enjoy them. I actually know some who are involved in the field such as Jarvis, Rocio, Thomas, and even my youngest daughter to name a few. It is cool to look back at certain places you have been and who you were there with but just like anything, all things in moderation. Don't ruin the moment because you are too busy trying to capture it.

Letters to Juliet.

I was forced to watch this movie against my will a few months back after watching the disaster called "Why did I get Married Too". I must say I actually enjoyed this movie. Enjoy!


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It's All About the Angles... She's Coming Over Your House!

This is strictly for my fellas about to have that special girl over their house***. Now, what do you do??? Since I want your experience to be a pleasant one, here are a few tips as to what to do.

* Cleanliness - Make sure all bathrooms, bedrooms, living rooms, and kitchens are cleaned. Top to bottom.

* Music - Have a good mix of music going. It sets the mood. I usually create a couple of channels in my Pandora that creates a good mix. (Hector LaVoe, Flying Lotus, Erykah Badu, ...) then hook it up to the system.

* Cook - Make her a good meal. Now is not the time to do something overly complicated or anything you haven't made many times before. She will really appreciate that. I usually am 90% done before she shows up so she could see that you are the one cooking. Another tip is that don't make anything with too many sauces (pasta). It might end up in her nice white shirt.

* Drinks - Have her favorite drink ready and chilled. Have two options, non alcoholic and alcoholic. Also, have some filtered or bottled water on deck just in case. It will start as non alcoholic because she wants to be in control. If she asks for the alcoholic type (if she drinks), she is getting comfortable with you. I recommend keeping a nice Moscato Wine. It is sweet and has her feeling good. If it is an Asian dinner, serve her a Plum Wine or Sake...



* Desert - Have something bought or made. She might not have eaten all the food but she WILL eat all the dessert. They ALL have a sweet tooth. Again, this goes back to how well you listened. So whether it be cheesecake, chocolates, or ice cream, make sure you have that ready.

After all of the eating and talking, move the party over to the living room, the living room, the living room. I repeated this 3 times because I DO NOT want you to think it's ok to go to the bedroom. Have her sipping on her favorite drink and light up some incense (real men DO NOT HAVE SCENTED CANDLES). I use Nag Champa and different variations. Don't light these bad boys up before or during dinner, it messes up the taste of the food. Crack jokes and enjoy each other's company. Talk about everything under the sun. Sit back and let yourself get caught in the moment. If she starts getting closer to you or complains that she has stiffness in her shoulder or back, time to show off your massage techniques. NOW you can go to the bedroom.



* Condoms - Have em, use em. I don't care how much you like her, DO NOT GO IN RAW. I keep 2 condoms on my pocket at all times. Do not have it in plain view. It's tacky.

* Have a Towel Handy - If you gave her the explosive orgasms as I hope you should have, she will not be able to walk or move for the next few. This way she could wipe off any perspiration or love.

* Have Bottled Water - Within arms reach. She has been through a lot and is probably thirsty. Poor thing...


Hug her afterwards and let her hear you breathe, they REALLY like that. Relax yourself because in the next 15 minutes you need to be aware if she wants to stay the night ( she falls right asleep in 2 minutes) or needs to go. She will say something like " I have to go even though I don't want to because...". Don't argue but help her get things together and get dressed. As you are walking (she is trying to walk) out give her some of the food and dessert "to go" so she could replay the whole night again when she eats it. Walk her to the car and ask her to let you know when she gets home

I hope this helps you take care of that special someone.




*** WARNING *****!!!!! This is of course for someone special. Not someone you do not trust or have just met. This is after a few times out together and after backgound checks and her refrences check out. DO NOT JUST INVITE ANYONE TO YOUR HOME. Do your research and be safe.