Amor en el Tiempo de Recesion (Love in the Time of Recession)

Divorce rates are at an all time high at more than 50%. Unemployment rate is now at 9.2% nationwide. In the District Area marriage rates are at 28% for men and 23% for women. Welcome to my world, OUR reality. Seems very dark and hopeless right? Is it any wonder why people are searching for something, anything to complete them. To make them happy? Enter the world of dating. Who doesn't want to be with someone during this time. To support you in all ways and give you what you are lacking. So why has it been such a challenge? Especially for my generation why is it so hard to find or stay in love?

HI! I'm a 30 year old Hispanic male. I was a product of a broken home and was raised by a single mother that was always at work (public assistance wasn't an option although would have been used for the right reasons), so I raised myself due to necessity and my resources. I did not learn how to be a man from my father but rather learning from books, personal trial and error, friends, and friend's fathers. I had to sustain myself financially and other wise at an early age. So cooking, cleaning, finances, and all other things are done by me with the need for no one. So I don't need a woman for anything else then for sex and companionship. I don't mean to be crude but this is the truth of the matter. Oh!! I forgot to mention that I am a father of two great daughters. Welcome to your typical male of this brave new era. Now what is happening is that there are plenty of women in that in this position as well. Does any of this sound familiar or hit home? The reason is because this is the reality for many in a city environment. What does this all mean?????

That we are not dependant on anyone. The only thing that we can't really provide for ourselves is sex and companionship. Enter another cute numerical fact. S.T.D.s are at an alarming high. In this area at least 5 to 6% of the people who are sexually active have HIV or AIDS. Yes! YIKES indeed. You are more likely to get this completely avoidable disease here than in West Africa. Why are we at such high risk. It's a combination of things. It has to do with people just needing that feeling of intimacy and relieving those most inner animal desires. Not practicing safe sex and multiple partners have greatly increased the amount of people infected. It all boils down to singles and committed folk can't keep it in their pants. Which translates to...

Unfaithful people. The amount of women and men cheating is extremely high. I myself seem to get more interest from married women than single at times. Sad but true. This beautiful thing called social networks and just being in a public environment that has people mingling leads to a feeding frenzy. Here is the simple breakdown of the problem and the solution.



No respectable or true man would be in a real relationship with a woman with high mileage. How does that saying go? That's right, "You can't turn a hoe into a housewife.". So women, please know that you are the backbone of our families and society. You are the mother and wife to us men and we need you at your best. Respect yourselves as the queens that you are and stop trying to F*ck anyone like me cause we have a pulse. Men, stop messing with these women that aren't of quality and lying to them in general. WE SHOULD BOTH AS MEN AND WOMEN HAVE RESPECT FOR OURSELVES AND EACH OTHER. We should learn to TRUST each other and ourselves. If we do these things and not get caught up by these low individuals, we can teach the uncivilized through example of prosperity happiness. We owe it to ourselves and each other. Peace...

-Alejandro

Double Vision

truth lies
behind eyes
shut wide
turning inward to hide
it's written all over and plain to see
so much pain caused by an effort to break free
past of what's been done stain her memory
won't let her progress
flashbacks prevent deep rest
full of regret
hungry for completion's nourishment
and her comes I
and in me she confides
the cause for smiles and cries
her lows and highs
and with this we rise
above and beyond
remembrance of right and wrong
getting lost in oblivion
her and I make one
lying still after done
and enjoying ecstasy
through sharing intimacy
somewhere in between momentary and infinity
exist her and I making a we
where time is not permitted to enter
a place where the past can find no shelter
that can only be called perfection's center
relief after release
she's finally at peace
within my arms reach
swirl her curls with each hand twirl and incense swirls
in complete silence warmed by our body's heat
entranced by the rhythm of her heart beat
falling into deep sleep

Read Between the Lines... Vol.1

WEED IS BECOMING LEGAL!!!!! Now that I have your attention, yes, Marijuana will become legal within a short time frame. You might be asking yourself why I believe this info to be true. I look at what has happened within the last week. There were two "drug busts" that caught my full attention. One occurred in NY and the other in Mexico. For sake of attention spans, I have decided to include the links for more detailed information below.

http://www.nypost.com/p/news/local/exclusive_rap_mogul_busted_for_living_IdkPmop12oVFEFAWLITOiN

^They busted an NY "Drug Ring" for having a million in cash and 177lbs of the sweet cheeba. Most notable is that they claim the were proving most of NY for the sticky icky icky

http://www.nypost.com/p/news/international/mexican_authorities_make_record_jq2OU2Ky1kzUkrUClbQTxO


^ They seized tons of the finest of greenery here. They are killing two birds with one stone considering Mexico has been making much bank from drug trades in the U.S.




What does this REALLY mean? THEY ARE CUTTING OUT THE COMPETITION! When they could have made busts like this over heroin or cocaine (some of the most deadliest drugs), they chose to bust weed. ON WEEEEEEDD!!!! They have been sitting on these cases for quite some time before busting them (watch the wire if you are unfamiliar). Weed is not addictive and for the hundreds of years that it's been in use NO ONE HAS EVER DIED FROM SMOKING WEED! There is no such thing as a weed overdose that takes your life. Look at how many people die from alcohol, tobacco, or even overdosing from over the counter meds. Now let's be clear as to why this is happening. $! Yup, the almighty $.




Look at California. It went from weed being illegal to Amsterdam in a few short years. They legalized it for "medicinal purposes" and everyone suddenly developed a symptom that marijuana "medicine"could help. The state could care less. They are making TONS of money from taxing it and no one is getting hurt. The beauty of it is that EVERYONE is eating from this. The growers to the people who are running the shops are banking and the right way. Good old supply and demand. They even went as far as to make marijuana in certain amounts an offense equivalent to a traffic ticket. All they are worried about is money so, you could always trust a whore to think like a whore. They just their money for f%cking you.

Just a Moment...

Everytime I hear this song it puts me into that zone. I have experienced some early losses to people I was very close to all the way to those I only knew for a brief time. I have had the privilege to meet many beautiful souls that are no longer with us. I don't fear death so that's why I never get too sad for them who have passed. I feel for their families that deal with that void of them no longer there for them for the good times and bad. I always understood it as they are in a better place and we are all promised the same fate as them so we shall all see each other soon enough. Peace to our way of life...

*Higher*

Going higher then I though ill ever become
Got me remembering story of Icarus getting too close to the sun
Burning my wings, me and the waves become one
But not all the way done
Just going with the flow
Neither fast or slow
If I go too deep I will miss the orb's glow
Do you know what I know?
The highs and low
Happen to be the same so
Don't hold your breath
To reach the bottom go
Above and beyond
Familiarity, family,
Actuality, reality
Insanity, clarity,
Her, we, she, and me,
Only thing left = energy
Its us and only us
Cloudkicks sponsored by Canibus
If you don't choke on the smoke
Meditate to feel the rush
The same when you cum
So hard can't help but to cuss
Its that feeling with no thought
Pure emotion traveling higher than Icarus

It's All About the Angles... Where and How To Get Someone of Quality.

HI! It's me again. How have you been? Me? I'm fine, being cool. You don't want to know all that do you? You are just being nice just so you can find out how to find someone of quality. What's wrong? Those dating websites keep on giving you rejects and crazies? Are the bars giving you low quality people with "miles'? Why are you surprised? Consider the source. Why do you think you will find a faithful, serious, person of quality in a place like a bar or club? That's where people in a relationship go and find people so they can cheat. You should know that by now. How many people of TRUE quality have you met from there? Don't worry, I'll wait. Now wipe those tears away, I got you covered with another dosage of the truth mixed in with some comedy. Isn't that what life is about anyway? Since it's hot in the streets I have made up a list. Not just any list though, I have included bonuses including level of difficulty and prep work to ensure your success all for, FREE! So without further ado, allow me to put you on. Here is where to find people of QUALITY along with some tips to attract that person to you.



Location : Bookstore. Degree of Difficulty : Medium. Prep - You MUST be literate, (at the very least for obvious reasons). Dress should be casual but smart. Throw some glasses in there while you are at it, makes you look smarter. Best Times : Sat.- Sun 1-5 p.m.

You might be asking, the bookstore? YES! The bookstore. If you were not aware since the last book you read was "The Little Engine That Could", bookstores are where it's at. The have every type of book there not just the kind with pictures. You will find someone of quality because at the least they are intelligent and are looking to expand. Self improvement is SEXY!!!! The way you pick someone up is the old fashion way, through something in common. Hang around looking at subjects that you find interesting and are genuinely excited about. You see someone you like in the section and there is that EYE CONTACT, go for it!!! Offer her a cup of coffee, it is literally 5 steps from where you are inside the store. Make conversation and get to know one another naturally. Just make sure to invite me to the wedding :)

What To Avoid : Don't go with your computer and be all creepy near the coffee spot in the store while you sip on the same drink for 2 hours while you hunt. Don't be that person.




Location : Grocery Store. Degree of Difficulty : Medium. Prep - An appetite. Basic knowledge of cooking. Dress should be business or business casual. Best Times : Tues-Thurs. 3:30-7 p.m. (after work)

I know what you are thinking, Grocery Store, boring... Let me tell you something. What is more exciting then finding someone that takes proper care of themselves and knows how to cook? Now that I have your attention, grocery stores are excellent places to find someone of quality. Now you usually see people in a rush and not really wanting to be around that many people. It makes people uncomfortable and less likely to have casual interaction as opposed to a bar where there is already social lubricants (alcohol). This is where it takes skill. It starts with eye contact. Once they have checked you out like the fine piece of meat that you are, smile back at them (a wink for the skilled). Once there is an equal reaction, just smile and introduce yourself. Make casual small talk and be nice. Help each other choose ingredients. This is an excellent chance for the set up. If you were smart, you would have some ingredients in your cart for a special recipe. You tell that person that the reason for you being there was to make a special dish that you are famous for that a dead grandmother gave you. You gain so many cool points that it's not funny! Here is where you win, please recite this word for word WITHOUT any variation and with a sincere face. " I would invite you to taste it but since we do not know each other properly yet, I don't think it would be right at this time". Then pause for effect... See what you did there was invite the person to get to know each other at a good pace with a promise of a reward while being realistic over their own paranoia. It is an all around win and you are doing you and them a favor.

What To Avoid : Anyone that has a bunch of ready made food such as heat and serves and just add water, they are the opposite of what you are looking for. Also avoid anyone with too many sweets or junk. Let's not forget to be mindful of anyone that has more alcohol (wine, wine coolers, beer) then actual food. Also lookout for a product called Monistat 7 (for the females), run don't walk away.



Location : Gym. Degree of Difficulty : High. Prep - Being in somewhat good shape (round does not count).Cinnamon Gum. A Shower before working out. Dress should be athletic gear without too many logos or loud colors. Some accessories can be an MP3 player Best Times : Mon-Sat 5-9 p.m.

Here is where you will find someone of quality and could probably whoop your butt. That's sexy. Someone who cares for their physical well being cares for others and has less stress while having their eye on the bigger picture. Please do not be intimidated, it is extremely difficult to stand out amongst the others that are gawking at that body in very form fitting clothes as they bounce up and down and up and down and are getting all hot and sweaty... wooo, getting excited just thinking about it! This is what you do, go about your workout as usual. Go to the Cardio Section (treadmills, elliptical, stair masters, bikes). Eye contact, then smile. If they smile back, then go away to another section without looking back. Again, this is for you to stand out and not be like the rest of the pervs. If they end up being in the same place you are in and using any of the machines or weights, get close to them and say "you have great form" with a big smile and that cinnamon gum in your mouth. Watch how they are hit by cupids arrow when they look at you. Ask for their name while you give them yours and ask if you could spot them. ***Now as an extra tip cause I love you, go there on a Friday between the hours of 7 p.m. to close. If you meet a person of quality during this magical time, you need to marry them. They were there getting their body right and relieving stress after a long day. They were doing something healthy instead of them going on another worthless date or hanging out with their looser "friends" at the bars and clubs while they drown their sorrows with that Firewater.

What To Avoid : Clothes that are too tight, going above your means (lifting weights that you very know you can't, or running faster than you should. The end result is always funny and not towards your benefit.) Also, be careful with the married ones. People tend not to work out with their wedding rings or bands. Just look for that circle tan on the ring finger.


I hope this helps and you have enjoyed the journey. If you find a person doing all three...???? You are truly on to someone of top quality! Treat them right because they deserve the best!!!!

Did I Ever Tell You About... The Time The Mother Of My Kids Almost Got Me Killed?

I never have been too open about my personal life but under much encouragement by those that know me, I have decided to share some of my experiences. If you know me, we have experienced many interesting adventures. I always joke that something interesting ALWAYS happens when I go out. I wouldn't have it any other way. So I introduce to you the pieces of my life...


Here's the breakdown -

I meet a young lady during a certain crossroads in my life. It was 1999 and I had just come back from P.R. and I wanted to change my life. Let's just say I was living the wrong way. I was high all day everyday and having sex with all types of women. I decided nothing good can come out of bad when my friend Tyrone lost a baby with Naomi. The baby was born premature and literally died in the arms of the parents. I felt terrible that everyone was loosing it and I was the only dry eye in the room. I felt for their loss and felt responsible for what happened (they met through me and all they consumed her in my house being I had my own place since 16). So I felt my lifestyle and encouragement of it, had caused what happened.

So I come back to the are after a few months in P.R. and come across a lady I messed with in High School for a brief period. Her and I ended on terrible terms and was shocked to see her looking so good (the years have been kind to her). So we got to know each other and ended up being inseparable. I really enjoyed her company and we ended up having two great daughters.

Now fast forward to after the kids are born and you will see that we did not bring out the best in each other. I care for her but in love I simply was not. Being she is a smart and strong willed Dominican, her and I did not mix. So after many years of difficulty, I left on October of 2006. This was at the worst time possible. I left with only my clothes and my car that I would later total a few weeks later. The Mortgage Industry that I was involved in collapsed so I was not making the money like I was and had to work longer to get less. Now here is when it gets funny.

She is being told by multiple sources that I am in Avenue, H2O, Bravo Bravo, all types of events just acting a fool. Slapping all types of ass and just showing off. Apparently did this not sit well with her. She was getting jealous beyond belief. Little does she know that I was NOT in those places at all. I was working on average 14 hour workdays and after the accident, was trying to line everything up. People, I left EVERYTHING behind. She kept the house, the kids, and everything else we acquired over 7 years. I was trying to rebuild from next to nothing and she was acting up from me supposedly living my single life. It didn't help that I was seeing this young lady that actually came by with me when I saw the kids, let's just call her D. So me and D go to see my kids and she looses it. Just when it couldn't get worse for her jealousy, I get to know some people at El Zol. I went up there for business and met some great people there. I even dated someone up there for a bit (lovely lady by the way. ). One day I go to drop off the flan I made for a DJ friend's bday and she shouted me out while in the studio. This was the straw that broke the camel's back

Now my lovely Dominican has connects in certain "circles". Her good friends are good with people who make it happen and can handle things on their own. So with all this Ale is partying 24/7 supposedly rumors, make her upset. She is telling everyone that she has to handle the kids and the big house without my help and while she was struggling. Now what happens is when women start playing the victim. They tell the wolves how they are going through a tough time and how they are all alone and can't take it and paint the other to be an absolute monster. So one thing leads to another and let's say 2 wolves get involved. Let's call em A and L. Now these dudes make it happen and the happen to come across me on a chance meeting. We hit it off and get to be real cool because of a mutual friend. This was on a Wednesday. Now on Friday when they find out who I am, they tell me that they were going to air me out on Saturday after I got out of a bday party that was happening in Avenue. The reason they let me know was cause they saw I was always working and was indeed not partying and not handling my business as they were told. Everything was cool afterwards and we still joke about it to this day.

--- This happens all the time and some are not as fortunate as others. Please be careful because many have been hurt or worse over he say she say. Also as a side note, she never intended to have me killed but she definitely inspired the wrong people. Be careful what you say cause you never know.

**** Also, I am very tight with all her family, brother and sister, cousins and others. They are as much a part of my family and I am of theirs. Although we have our ups and downs, she is still a person I look out for and care about. NOW DON'T EVER ASK ME WHY WE ARE NOT TOGETHER CAUSE THIS SHOULD BE A GOOD ENOUGH EXPLANATION.